Now David’s son Absalom had a beautiful sister named Tamar. And Amnon, her half brother, fell desperately in love with her. Amnon became so obsessed with Tamar that he became ill. She was a virgin, and Amnon thought he could never have her. 2 Samuel 13:1-2 NLT
Amnon here faced a situation that MANY, if not ALL of us have experienced once upon a time; a strong attraction or in blunt terms, LUST for someone who is out of our reach. It wasn’t rational for him to desire his half sister, full stop.
Let’s see what he ended up doing:
But Amnon had a very crafty friend—his cousin Jonadab. He was the son of David’s brother Shimea. One day Jonadab said to Amnon, “What’s the trouble? Why should the son of a king look so dejected morning after morning?” So Amnon told him, “I am in love with Tamar, my brother Absalom’s sister.”
“Well,” Jonadab said, “I’ll tell you what to do. Go back to bed and pretend you are ill. When your father comes to see you, ask him to let Tamar come and prepare some food for you. Tell him you’ll feel better if she prepares it as you watch and feeds you with her own hands.” So Amnon lay down and pretended to be sick. 2 Samuel 13:3-6 NLT
It’s interesting to see that the same spirit that worked all those years ago, using Jonadab (family/friends) to “advise/suggest” a solution, still works today. What’s the most frustrating part of all is what Amnon did:
Then he said to Tamar, “Now bring the food into my bedroom and feed it to me here.” So Tamar took his favorite dish to him. But as she was feeding him, he grabbed her and demanded, “Come to bed with me, my darling sister. No, my brother!” she cried. “Don’t be foolish! Don’t do this to me! Such wicked things aren’t done in Israel. Where could I go in my shame? And you would be called one of the greatest fools in Israel. Please, just speak to the king about it, and he will let you marry me.”
But Amnon wouldn’t listen to her, and since he was stronger than she was, he raped her. Then suddenly Amnon’s love turned to hate, and he hated her even more than he had loved her. “Get out of here!” he snarled at her. “No, no!” Tamar cried. “Sending me away now is worse than what you’ve already done to me.” But Amnon wouldn’t listen to her. He shouted for his servant and demanded, “Throw this woman out, and lock the door behind her!” 2 Samuel 13:10-17 NLT
Now, was Amnon REALLY in love with Tamar? Was the “advice/suggestion” of Jonadeb REALLY coming from a place of good intention?
As Christians and believers, we must realise the difference between the love God created and the lust created by the devil; because MANY believers since the creation of the human race have fallen and done disastrous things to jeopardise there salvation due to lack of understanding.
Love suffers long and is kind; love envies not; love flaunts not itself and is not puffed up, does not behave itself improperly, seeks not its own, is not easily provoked, thinks no evil; rejoices not in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Love never fails. I Corinthians 13:4-8 MEV
Anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love. I John 4:8 MEV
- Love is patient; Lust rushes things.
- Love cares; Lust despises.
- Love doesn’t end; Lust is short lived.
- Love is rational actions; Lust is emotional actions.
In 2018, make it a good habit to meditated on these God inspired posts, there’s 294 to choose from, including this one. Here’s a few: The Bible – The Treasure On Your Desk || Love Is One Thing; Passion Is Another! || The 10 Values Of Faith || #10 Love || My Conduct/Actions Is Much More Effective || The Blame Game In A Relationship || Learn To Say NO! Love Life Tip || God First; Actions Second!