When the woman saw that the tree was good for food, that it was pleasing to the eyes and a tree desirable to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate; and she gave to her husband with her, and he ate, […] Then they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden. Genesis 3:6 & 8 MEV
God has given everyone FREE WILL. In a relationship, people make different choices on how they deal with problems, setbacks, losses etc… The relationship’s success or failure, is an outcome of these various decisions.
Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you not to eat?” The man said, “The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate.” Genesis 3:11-12 MEV
When an issue arises in a relationship, it very easy to start pointing fingers, blame other people and start denouncing any ownership of contributing towards the issue, just like how Adam did. Why? because it’s the easiest thing to do in those moments, the emotional thing to do. No one wants to feel like they are at fault and feel like a failure.
Then the Lord God said to the woman, “What have you done?” And the woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” Genesis 3:13 MEV
In addition to that, many people, when problems arise in their relationship, out of emotions tend to go and do something even more silly, and are quick to say, “It’s all our fault!” or “If you hadn’t said that, I wouldn’t have done it!”. They do what Eve did.
In reality, that person cannot blame their partner or anything as the reason for making that bad decision, even if it contributed to it, because that person has FREE WILL and can never be forced to do anything.
Everyone must take responsibility for their decisions, the good ones and especially, the bad ones. When we blame people, you will never move forward, this is because you are putting your responsibility, of solving the issue, in someone else’s hands.
One more thing: You & I have no exclusive power over what others decide to do, only on what we decide to do. ALWAYS remember this.
Anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love. I John 4:8 MEV
How can you expect to have a successful relationship with someone but don’t include God? He is LOVE, that’s like making a chocolate cake without using chocolate.
I pray you heard God’s voice and will act upon His guidance, in Jesus name.
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